First dates are nerve-racking, and you want it to be interesting for both you and your date. You want to make the first date fun and light, but you also want to know who this person is on a deeper level. The best way to accomplish all of these goals, is to get your date to talk about themselves as much as you can. You will find that getting your date to talk about themselves–more than you talk about yourself–will be extremely enjoyable for both of you. To help you with that, here are 5 things to talk about on a first date.
1. What kind of music do they like to listen to?
Music is a universal language. Everyone listens to music, and everyone has their favorite genres or artists. This question will give you a baseline indication of their personality, and maybe introduce a common interest to both of you. Maybe you both like to listen to Jazz music, and you can talk about your favorite artists and the nuances of Jazz. Maybe they like something completely different from you, and you can discuss your differences to keep the conversation flowing.
2. What is their all time favorite food?
We all need to eat, but we also have our favorite foods. Asking them what they like to eat will open up all kinds of avenues for discussion that will keep you both entertained. Perhaps they are an amazing amateur chef, maybe they are a food critic, or maybe they are adventurous enough to want to try anything and everything. Not only do you get an interesting conversation, but you also get a good idea of what to do for your second date!
3. What is their favorite book?
Most of us have read at least one book, and even if we haven’t read one in years, we have our favorite stories. When you ask this question, you can get a feel for how much they read, what kind of stories they like, and what has helped shape their world view. Books speak to us on emotional, intellectual, and sometimes a spiritual level. If you both like the same book, you can discuss your favorite parts together. As another bonus, you may have a good gift idea if they are really excited about reading.
4. What do they like to complain about?
It sounds like a weird question, but if everything goes well you are going to want to know what they hate, as much as what they love. You’ll have to ask this one in a playful way. You don’t want your date to feel like they are being put on the spot! They are trying their best to impress you, after all. We all like to complain about something, be it dirty dishes, people talking during movies, or sticky fingers. This question will help you understand what their biggest pet peeves are, without being cliché. It will also give you insight as to what you might be doing in your life that would be a turn off to your potential partner, which gives you the opportunity to decide if you want to change your habits for them or not.
5. What do they like to do when they have time alone?
We all need personal time, and we all have our favorite activities to fill our time when there isn’t anything pressing to do. This question will give you a better idea as to what their hobbies are, without sounding like you are in an interview. Maybe they play guitar, or read, or write, or play video games. This question may help you make their free time more productive and meaningful, which they will be grateful for.
There you have it! 5 things to talk about on a first date. Be sure to use these the next time you have a first date, and feel free to tell us how it went!